Our lives are filled with the concept of ‘emotion’.
From emotion, beautiful music is born.
From emotion, inspired art is created.
From emotion, words like these come to fruition.
It is a natural aspect of the human soul to feel. You cannot simply not feel. That’s an impossible feat unto itself, as no emotion is always some emotion.Our minds often consider emotions in varying degrees of ‘intensity’.
One might say that from intense suffering, true souls are born. I don’t know about that, but I do know that suffering makes us appreciate the contrast that our existence on earth is. We are not blind, even if we turn our eyes from what is going on in the world. The knowledge is still there. You can’t seriously say you’ve lived a life without something bad happening to you, can you?
If you haven’t experienced sadness, how could you truly appreciate joy? If you’ve never been poor and had the experience of only having about 2000 kr (that’s about $336) to live on each month, would you then be able to appreciate being financially secure? Matter – of – factly, you would… but on a very different level.
We are taught that we live empty lives if we don’t have certain things to fulfill us. These can include money, relationships, clothing, elephants etc.. I’ve certainly been victim of this. In my case, it’s always been important for me to feel valuable and approved by my friends – even the ones that are not local.
This need kicked in when I saw that none of my blogging friends had nominated me for Steve Atchison’s annual top 50 PD blogs. Now, before you hit me with a stick, I will say that it was completely irrational of me to suddenly feel the way I did, but let’s screw rationality for some minutes.
You see, it wasn’t the nomination in itself that mattered to me: It was the perceived lack of support and the belief that I was ‘forgettable’, and even that my articles weren’t valuable! Talk about taking things personally, right? Even so, it made me feel empty. My emotional need to feel valuable wasn’t fulfilled, even though I really did not have any desire to be part of it given that Some Insight Required is new and still in its beginning phase.
Then, Sel posed a very interesting question to me after I had sent a whiny mail about my feelings to a friend: “What is it that makes you unworthy?”
It got me thinking, which is what I do most of the day, so no surprise there. I reasoned that it was probably a need that originated from my childhood. Alright, so the emotional impact lingered with me… but WHY?
Sel answered that too: “It’s not about what happens to you, but how you perceive what happens.”
I think she and Morty Lefkoe could get along. A lightbulb appeared in my mind.
Now, I won’t propose that we should shed our emotional fears but this side of us can be crippling. I am proof. Still, fear can be our strength. If you hadn’t lived under the perceived notion that you needed ‘X’ to fulfill you and feared you didn’t have it, would it have given you the strength to break out of the box? It’s about making positives in negatives, folks. I am writing this post in hopes of helping you, for example.
Freedom and Empowerment
Emotions help us experience contrast. Our thoughts feed our emotions, for better and for worse. Emotions are by default awesome.
We do not live in a black and white world, but in a world of colours. Obviously. A world where you can question morality, blog about pink unicorns, commit unspeakable acts, and donate money to charity.
We truly do possess more freedom than we are aware of.
You see, it isn’t about what you can achieve on the outside through working on the inside: It’s about the balance. The equilibrium that naturally rises when you are at peace with all your flaws and your own emotions. Stop overnalayzing, stop overworking yourself. You are perfect as you are, aren’t you?
Yet you keep asking ‘Why do I feel this way?’ and then you try to find a rational answer as if doubting yourself. Been there, done that. We all have. Life’s biggest battles are often fought alone.
Emotions give us the incentive to empower ourselves. It’s about the spark that’s created, and overcoming whatever may try extinguish it. Life doesn’t come with a blueprint, and everyone has their opinions on what is worth living for and with. It’s about ”growing up and facin’ the real world, and it ain’t nice.”
But what would they really know? We are bound to rebel at some point, in some way. Through constantly being put through situations where we experience the opposite of what we desire, we will eventually learn to grasp the true nature of our goal, and it isn’t more moneh for your wallet. Or so I’d like to say, but truth be told… I can’t speak for you, but I know you’re a human with your own emotions.
So with that lame line, I will propose this: Let’s embrace our days for what they are worth, the good and the bad, the clear and the haze. Sometimes life needs patience to reveal its true intent to us.
Questions and Answers:
How do you deal with overwhelming emotions?
A: If I didn’t know any better, I’d say ‘change your thoughts’, but I know better. I could also say ‘go see a psychologist’, but I’ m gonna be controversial and say: Try to live with it. There might be a reason for it. If there are situations that keep occurring that’s causing you to feel this on regular intervals, try to distance yourself from the situation some minutes a day. Walking or listening to music is therapeutic for me. Escapism has an inherent value.
Do emotions cause dreams?
A: They may, because dreams are inherently emotional. Or they may not. Dreams are hard to figure out. From a physical perspective, we do not know where dreams are created in the brain either. From a metaphysical perspective, they serve as a kind of inner exploration vehicle and since emotions are part of our beings… well, emotions certainly cause things to happen in dreams!
Why do you keep mentioning Sel in your posts?
A: Sel herself wants to answer that:
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